Friday, October 26, 2012

Relationship Issues

Human beings are complex creatures with many hopes, desires and consequently, lots of problems. These problems seem to increase when two completely different people with their own ideas and desires decide to become a couple. At this point, these problems can become relationship issues.
Relationship issues are actually pretty common occurrences in any relationship. However when there does not seem to be a common ground that these differences can be worked out in, then a strain begins to appear in the relationship. Quite a number of couples who have relationship issues that they can't resolve, seek professional help in order that their relationship can become stronger and these relationship issues can be brought into perspective.
However there is no guarantee that even a professional will be able to provide enough help to resolve the relationship issues. There is also no sure fire guarantee that the relationship will move back into the same mould that it was in to start with. The main reason for this is the human baggage factor, we will take various aspects of this learning experience forward with us and a lot of the time this means negative emotional reactions to similar triggers.
As people are complex beings they are constantly changing and evolving. Each time this change happens it takes us farther away from who we used to be in terms of the way that we viewed and thought about the world around us.
The problems that initially cause the relationship to become strained are sometimes very small and in the normal course of life we wouldn't even take any notice of them. However, when we are part of a couple, our sense of the world around us, including our problems changes. In many cases we find that there is a limit to what we will not notice or notice but disregard.
For these relationship issues to become resolved what really needs to be done is to step away from the problem and look at it from the perspective of an outsider. When we do this we begin to see both sides of the problem and it is easier for us to know what must be done in order to resolve the relationship issues.
The main thing that needs to be remembered is that what you do to resolve your relationship issues will change the very nature of your relationship and sometimes this change is not for the better. However if we want to have some peace in our relationship then it is imperative that we find some way of solving these problems. Otherwise these relationship issues will tear our lives apart.
Relationship issues are part of what it is to be a human being. Without these issues, there is no way that we can evolve and become better than we are at our present moment in time. While it may hurt when a relationship is going through a rough patch, it can lead to a change for the better if both parties gain more understanding of each others needs and their own reaction to those. If on the other hand, the relationship should end, it is better for the break to be clean than for the relationship to linger on and fester because our relationship issues are not able to be resolved.

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